Sunday, May 12, 2013

The passage of one year: When did I last 'see' my mother?

Today is Mother's Day, tomorrow would have been my mom's 82nd birthday, and Tuesday is the first anniversary of Mom's death. For the last few weeks I have been thinking about the last time I actually saw my mom in the fullness of her being, the last time she was unmistakably and fully there. Tracing my way back through time, I began to wonder when was it that I last truly 'saw' my mother?

When a family member doesn't have an apparent illness, and death doesn't appear imminent, we just live our days. We take things forgranted and don't say goodbye after visits, but say 'see you next time'. We don't think about loss, believing there will always be more visits and conversations, more shopping trips and more everyday tasks.

The last time I hugged our mother goodbye as we left her home, I didn't think we would never again see her standing in the front doorway of the house, making us laugh, as she waved and chanted farewell in Italian. 'Arrivederci, arrivederci!', she called out, as she always did to us, an Irish woman using the farewell word of Italy, the country in which she enjoyed one of her most memorable holidays. Sometimes she would make a short hand of it and say, 'rive, rive', but the sentiment was always the same, 'farewell, until we meet again'.

My mom's illness and passing took place over a very short period of time. Mom had been hospitalized a few times over the course of her senior years, but she always recovered and came back better than ever. This time it was different. Mom was admitted to hospital on Thursday, and with all of us around her, on Monday evening she died, the day after she had celebrated both her 81st birthday and Mother's Day.

When did I last truly see my mom?

Was it the last time Mom was wrapped in Dad's arms and the two of them danced together?
Was it the last time I had an argument with her, or the last time we completely agreed on something?
Was it when she turned her face up to the harvest moon, and seemed to be dreaming of another time and place?
Was it when she laughed out loud at the birthday party of a friend, or quietly dabbed tears of pride at a graduation?

When did I last truly see my mom?

Was it on the afternoon of the day before she died? In her hospital bed Mom closed her eyes, and with the buds of my iPod in her ears, she listened to Andre Rieu, her favourite violinist, as he played Les Patineurs, one of her favourite pieces of music. She rocked back and forth in the hospital bed, sweeping an invisible conductor's baton through the air, bringing the orchestra in her imagination to crescendo.

On that Sunday, we thought Mom was on her way back to us, but with each one of those musical trills she was moving closer to heaven.

Arrivederci Mamma! You are very much missed.
Bella Mamma, out and about on a day in Rome.


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Tuesday, May 7, 2013

Tuesday's Tip: The Act of Union Black list

This Tuesday's Tip is not a tip as such, but another resource page I am adding to this blog. The content of this page is a little sticky, so to speak, because it is a 'Black List' of those individuals who were called out for changing their vote, and thus voting in favour of the Act of Union** in 1800. With respect to family history, whether or not we agree with the decisions made by the men named on the Black List, we must remember they had family, and they may have descendants.

The source of this list is a book which I purchased at an auction of historical ephemera in Ireland in 2010. Written by Sir Jonah Barrington, and published in 1833, it bears what has to be the longest book title and subtitle I have ever seen. It is entitled,
"The Rise and Fall of The Irish Nation: 
A full account of the Bribery and Corruption by which the Union was carried
The Family Histories of the members who voted
away the Irish Parliament,
With an Extraordinary Black List
 of the Titles, Places, and Pensions which They received for their corrupt votes."

According to Sir Jonah Barrington, those who initially had been against the Act of Union sold their principles — and their souls — for financial and political gain by changing their minds and voting against Ireland and for the Act of Union with Great Britain.

Although Sir Barrington's strong opinions about those who changed their vote might lead us to believe that everyone could be bought off, this was not the case. Some of those who changed their votes did so because they were convinced the Act would lead to reform, both parliamentary and economic, and would include Catholic emancipation. Whether or not they accepted bribes, the names of those who changed their votes and voted for the Act of Union appear on the Black List.

There are 140 names on the Black List. Under the heading 'Observations', Sir Barrington includes some biographical information about some of these individuals, and adds details of any payoff to them. With an acid tongue, Barrington occasionally inserts his opinion of them. Of his observations Barrington remarks, "As the capitulation was disgusting, the discussion must be severe."

So...

Are any of your ancestors on the Act of Union Black List?

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What was the Act of Union?

Here follows a very brief and simplified history of The Act of Union 1800/1801:

Tabled in 1800, passed into law in August of that year, and effected on 1 January 1801, the Act of Union joined Ireland to Great Britain as the single kingdom called The United Kingdom of Great Britain and Ireland.

Buoyed by the ideals of the French Revolution, including religious emancipation, many Irish, such as Theobald Wolfe Tone and the United Irishmen, saw breaking free from Britain as the way forward to liberty and democracy for all. In order to prevent Ireland from supporting France in war against Britain — remember the French landed in County Mayo to aid the United Irishmen in the 1798 Rising — and to quell the fervour for liberty and fraternity, Britain sought to rein in Ireland with the Act of Union. As I mentioned above, some believed Ireland would benefit from the Act.

Once the Act of Union was passed into law, matters became more clear about what would actually be the case:

1. The Irish Parliament at Dublin was abolished, so no longer could Irish members of Parliament debate the fate of Ireland in Ireland. With the Act, Ireland was now represented at Westminster by one hundred Members of Parliament, 4 Lords Spiritual (bishops of the Anglican Church who served in the House of Lords) and 28 Lords Temporal (secular members of the House of Lords). Every single representative had to be Anglican.

2. King George III's disdain for Catholics was enshrined in the Act. He forbade Catholic Emancipation in Ireland, citing the fact that upon his coronation he had sworn an oath to uphold Anglicanism. Further, he ordered that no Catholics were permitted to hold public office.

3. The Anglican Church was made the official Church of Ireland.

4. There was to be free trade between Ireland and the rest of Britain (although this did not prevent tariffs from being imposed on Irish goods).

5. Ireland had to have a separate Exchequer, that is a national treasury, and from these monies Ireland had to pay for two-seventeenths of the so called 'general expenses' of the entire United Kingdom. This worked out to Ireland paying about 12% of the Kingdom's bills.

Overall, you have to agree it was not such a great 'union' for Ireland. They should have requested a pre-nup.

The dissolution of Éire's union with the United Kingdom began with the declaration of Irish independence, the opening volley of the 1916 Easter Rising. That declaration was ratified in 1919 by the newly created and secret Dáil Eireann, the War of Independence ensued, after which the Irish Free State was established in 1922. Ireland enshrined its independence in the constitution of 1937, and any remaining ties with the union were entirely severed in 1949. Independent Ireland, called Éire, and described as The Republic of Ireland, is no longer subject to the Act of Union, and therefore is not part of the United Kingdom (the State of Northern Ireland remains part of the UK).

Oddly enough, the Irish government did not officially remove the Act of Union from the law books in Ireland until 1983, and although it no longer applies, the Act of Union remains on the law books of the UK.

**Note: Since the union had to be approved in each parliament, there were actually two Acts of Union governing the union of Ireland with Great Britain. One was passed in the British Parliament in July of 1800, and the other was passed in the Irish Parliament in August of 1800. Both came into effect on 1 January 1801.

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Friday, May 3, 2013

In the Stone Breaker's Yard, Kilmainham Gaol: 3 May 1916 - 12 May 1916

On this day, 3 May 1916, in the stone breakers' yard of Kilmainham Gaol Dublin, three men were executed by firing squad for their roles as leaders of the Easter Rising. The three were Padráig (Patrick) Pearse, Thomas Clarke, and Thomas MacDonagh. For many, Pearse is probably the best known of the leaders, since it was he who read the Proclamation of the Irish Republic on the steps of the General Post Office on Easter Monday 26 April 1916.

Between 3 May and 12 May 1916, fourteen men would be shot to death by firing squad in the stone breaker's yard, including James Connelly, who was so badly wounded in the Rising that he had to be strapped into a chair in order to stay upright when he was placed before the firing squad on 12 May. Death by firing squad was the sentence pronounced on these men who were tried by court martial and convicted of contravention of the Defence of the Realm Acts for leading men in rebellion against the British crown.

Whether it is that you know what has taken place here, or that the stone walls which surround it are very high, but the air within the stone breakers' yard is very still. The flag which stands within it does not flutter, and the only sound you hear is the shifting of stones beneath the feet of the visitors. It sometimes seems as though no matter when you stand in the yard, even on a sunny day, the sky overhead is grey.

Metal crosses stand at either end of the yard, each one marking the site on which the men were executed. A plaque on the wall names each man in remembrance.

The main entrance to Kilmainham Gaol

Looking up from the stone breakers' yard.

One of two crosses at either end of the yard.

The flag of Éire stilled.

The second of two crosses.

The plaque bearing the names of the leaders.

Drawn by Brigid O'Mullane (Civil war prisoner 1922-23) on her cell wall
on the Cumann na mBan floor of Kilmainham Gaol. 
Arbour Hill: The Burial site of the 1916 Leaders.

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