On a Friday, I bought the last birthday card I will ever give to my mom. Her birthday and Mother's Day fell on the same date this year, Sunday, 13 May. After a very brief illness, Mom died on the evening of the very next day, surrounded by the family she loved.
On that Sunday, we were all there to see Mom open the cards which would mark her 81st birthday, as well as the cards for Mother's Day. Mom was wearing an oxygen mask which was helping her breathe, so she could not put on her eyeglasses. Mom was too weak to read out the verses and personal messages written inside, so I stood by the side of her bed and read them aloud to her. Tears welled up in her eyes, as I opened each card, and her lips moved in whispers as I recited the verse. She took the cards in hand, and ran her fingers over the surface of them. Some of the cards had colourful flocking or little sparkles, others had scalloped edges or ribbon. Each one delighted her in its own way.
After I read out the cards, we placed them on her window sill next to her bed, and there they stood until Mom was gone, and we had to leave the hospital, on Monday night. No more will Mom gaze upon them. She will never again read out the verses, or run her hand over the cards' crafted edges. Never again will she display them across the top of her piano, and then pack them away with all of her other birthday cards, in the small blue case Mom kept under her bed.
Never again will I go to the card shop to buy a birthday card to give to Mom, a card with a pretty cover, and a poetic verse. Never again will I see the smile come over her lips, as she reads the words of love meant only for her.
It was the last birthday card.
Mary Jane Teresa Ball Geraghty
13 May 1931 - 14 May 2012
Oh Jennifer, I am so sad for you at this difficult time. I don't want to sound trite but in a way it's lovely that she, and all of you, had the chance to celebrate one last birthday and Mother's Day with her. It's obvious that it was the thoughts and care of her family that were so very important to her. You gave her the blessing of love and care to the last. My sympathy in your loss.
ReplyDeleteDear Pauleen,
DeleteThank you so much for your kind words and thoughts. We are very grateful to have been able to spend Mom's last birthday with her.
Jennifer
One of the most beautiful tributes I have ever read. Well done.
ReplyDeleteDear Carol,
DeleteThank you for your kindness and support my friend.
Jennifer
I'm so sorry for your loss. What a wonderful gift to have spent that last birthday with her - a time you will treasure for the rest of your life.
ReplyDeleteDear Debi,
ReplyDeleteThank you for your thoughtful comments; they are much appreciated.
Jennifer
Jennifer, sorry to hear of your recent loss. My mom has been gone for some time but I still miss her every day. She is the reason I want to write the genealogy of her side of the family tree. I want others to know her as I did.
ReplyDeleteDear Colleen,
ReplyDeleteThank you for your kind words; they are much appreciated.
Jennifer
I'm so sorry for your loss. It's never easy losing one we love, most especially a mom. I'm so glad you got the last birthday with her. It's a special memory you will always keep.
ReplyDeleteDear Leslie,
DeleteThank you for your kind words. I appreciate receiving them.
Jennifer
Your Mother would no doubt be very proud of the beautiful tribute you have paid her. What wonderful memories, though tinged with sadness. I can no longer give my mother the cards she adored either, but it helps me to light a blue candle in her memory on her birthday, Mother's Day and Christmas Eve... something I've been doing for 30 years. The memory of your mother's beautiful smile will remain with you always.
ReplyDeleteDear Crissouli,
DeleteThank you for your kind words and thoughts. I love the idea that you light a candle for your mom.
Jennifer
What a beautiful tribute to your Mother. So sorry for your loss.
ReplyDeleteDear Judy,
ReplyDeleteThank you for your kind words; they are much appreciated.
Jennifer
My condolences Jennifer. Such a beautifully written tribute a very precious and well loved mother. May your heart be at peace. Catherine
ReplyDeleteDear Catherine,
DeleteThank you for your kind comments. They are much appreciated.
Jennifer
Such a beautiful post to honour your mother. I'm very sorry for your tremendous loss :(
ReplyDeleteThank you Maggie. I really appreciate your kind words.
DeleteJennifer
Jennifer, I've been so behind in my reading, and just tonight got the opportunity to catch up here. I'm sorry for having missed reading this, and most certainly sorry to hear of your loss. The pain at first, as it is for all of us who have gone through such an experience, may seem unbearable, but I trust you are beginning to move into the realm of those precious healing memories that resurrect a lost loved one to a cherished position within your heart. She will, though in an intangible way, always be with you. The sweet picture you shared at the end of this post tells me you are allowing that healing to do its work. What a precious legacy your mother has left you.
ReplyDeleteDear Jacqi,
ReplyDeleteThank you for your kind and thoughtful words. They are much appreciated.
Jennifer